Changing your mind during a divorce isn’t as uncommon as you might think. People make up, circumstances change, and sometimes, reconciliation feels worth exploring. But what happens if you’ve already started the process? Can you still hit the brakes?
The short answer is yes. You can stop a divorce, but how you do it depends on where you are in the process. If the papers have just been filed, it may be as simple as withdrawing the petition. If things are further along, you and your spouse may need to take additional steps together.
What if your spouse disagrees?
If you’re on the same page with your spouse about getting back together and the court process has already started, you’ll both need to agree to dismiss the case. This means having an honest conversation about what you both want.
If your spouse wants to continue with the divorce and you don’t, the process will likely move forward eventually. Vermont law allows either spouse to end the marriage without proving fault. You can’t block it by refusing to participate.
It may be too late to undo some things
Even if you stop the divorce, some decisions may already be locked in. For instance, if you or your spouse sold business interests or cashed out retirement savings as part of the divorce process, those changes may be difficult or impossible to unwind.
Remember, once a judge issues the final divorce order, your marriage is legally over. At that point, the only way to undo it is by remarrying each other. That’s why it’s important to speak up early if you’re reconsidering.
It also underscores the need for legal guidance. Divorce isn’t just about emotions. There are long-term legal and financial consequences. Whether you ultimately choose to reconcile or proceed with the divorce, having the right support can help you make informed decisions and make the process less overwhelming.
